What To Do If You Suspect a Loved One May Be Struggling With an Eating Disorder (ED)

To round out this years National Eating Disorder Awareness Week (NEDAW), here’s a post on some tips to navigate what to do if you suspect a loved one may be struggling with an eating disorder (ED) or disordered eating. For more on relevant statistics about EDs please visit https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/statistics/

If you’re worried that someone you care about may be struggling with an ED or disordered eating, it’s normal to feel unsure about what to say. The most important things? Show them that you care and provide resources if they’re willing to listen/receive.

Here are some ideas to begin the conversation… think to keep it simple and supportive:

• “I’ve noticed some changes and I’m feeling concerned. I care about you, can I share my concerns?”

• “I don’t know exactly what you’re going through, but I’m here to listen.”

• “You don’t have to handle this alone.”

  
  

Use “I” statements and focus on behaviors you’ve noticed, not their weight or appearance

Here are some things you likely want to avoid addressing:

• Comments about weight (even if it feels complimentary)

• “Just eat normally.”

• Minimizing their experience

• Offering diet advice

  
  

Eating disorders are serious mental health conditions; not choices and not just about food or weight. 

One of the most crucial things is to encourage professional support. You are there to offer care and concern to your loved one but not cannot (and should not feel as though you can or should) be the one to provide professional support. 

Recovery is at its best when folks have a multidisciplinary team. That includes a therapist, medical provider, and a Registered Dietitian (RD) trained in eating disorders. 

A RD can:

• Help restore regular, balanced eating

• Reduce fear and confusion around food

• Address medical and nutrition needs

• Support rebuilding a healthier relationship with food

Unlike online nutrition advice, RDs provide evidence-based, individualized care and work as part of a recovery team.

You might say:

“Would you be open to talking with a professional? I can help you find someone or go with you.For you or your loved one, these organizations offer reliable information and support:

• National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA)nationaleatingdisorders.orgHelpline, chat support, and treatment locator

• Academy for Eating Disordersaedweb.orgEvidence-based information and provider directories

• The Alliance for Eating Disorders Awarenessallianceforeatingdisorders.comFree referrals, education, and support groups

  
  

For immediate crisis support in the USA, call or text 988. 

You don’t need perfect words, just caring ones. Express concern, stay calm, and encourage professional help. Your support could be the first step toward recovery.